cleocleo01 I'm so sorry to hear about your Kiara, its no wonder you are feeling so sad. Please don't blame yourself as presumably you were advised on this treatment by your vet. Just let your husband, family & Cleo provide & take comfort.
There's no such thing as and acceptable amount of greiving, after all it was only last night & there is no such thing as "just a cat". Sorry that your return to the forum is in such sad circumstances but we are here if you feel you want to talk more & tell us more of your Kiara.
Kiara will be well again now, playing with all those who've gone before at Rainbow Bridge.
Welcome back cleo,so sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. Please don't beat yourself up about a decision you had to make,your vet wouldn't have given injection if he thought it was too high a risk.Some things happen and are completely out of our and the vets hands.So please stop blaming yourself,it could have happened anyway,and you would blame yourself for not letting Kiara have the injection. You will be so lost in your grief,you will be looking for answers that can't be given,we all do that on the loss of an adored pet.Don't apologize for anything,many of us have been through this heartbreak and understand what you are going through. I was a complete mess for weeks after the passing of my pets,and pet owners understand and sympathise.Only this morning a vet on the news said he sees tattood very tough men break down at the loss of a pet,so it's absolutely normal.As another forum member stated,the more a pet is loved,the more it is grieved for.So very true.
So sad to hear about your cat Kiara. You are not to blame. The grief will make you think that you could have done something different. I blamed myself when one of my cats was killed on the road at 8 months old. None of us on this forum think your cat was 'just a cat' and we all understand your grief.
We are all here for you and understand what you are going through.
Kiara was your cat and thats all thats important. If the people around you cant cope with your grieving, you can always chat to like minded folk on here for understanding. I believe blaming yourself is in itself a natural part of grief. Time means nothing in terms of grief, you will work your way through it when and how you see fit. Im sure Kiara was an amazing cat and she will be forever etched in your heart. There are Pet bereavement telephone lines you can call if you really feel the need to talk to someone in person. Take care and Rest in peace Kiara.
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Thankyou everyone... its amazing how sharing can help.. The crematorium called today to discuss details.. she was a lovely lady and today is the first day I have been able to talk about kiara without falling apart... I really miss her.
Very sorry to hear your news! Don't blame yourself for what happened, at the end of the day you did what you thought was best for her as any good pet owner would, and the clot may have had nothing to do with the injection (likely, as if she was urinating blood her blood will have naturally tried to clot to stop the loss of blood).
Glad you have your husband there to comfort you, take as long as you like to grieve. Cats are family members too after all!
sorry for your loss, I know how you are feeling, you aren't to blame you had done what you thought that was right for Kiara, we would of done the same as the vets know more than we do. we all miss the pets we have lost and I know it hurts alot . keep those good memories close to your heart and things will get better in time,
Thank you all for your support. I'm amazed at how using something like this and facebook you can generate such lovely support from complete strangers. I have to say that I have had more support online than i have from my supposed best friend - The fact she has hardly spoken to me has added to the upset I am already feeling. She's as an animal lover herself and has loads of rabbits and guineapigs and has sadly lost 2 cats in the past. Kiara is my first cat to pass away since i was a child, I kinda hoped id be able to talk to her about what happened... apparently not
tonib: She was fine but got checked by vet just in case! That was a heart stopping time, especially her cries!
Jul 20, 2018 13:34:59 GMT
lotsofcats: I can remember when that happened with Lexi.
Jul 20, 2018 18:56:39 GMT
tonib: You've got a good memory, that was in 2012 I posted on the old YC forum
Jul 20, 2018 21:51:09 GMT
Gillykat: Wooohoooo updated piccies of the two new girls been sent.....they look adorable....and as tthough they'll boss Monty around summik rotten! My poor wee man
Jul 25, 2018 19:23:44 GMT
Gillykat: Listen! Can you hear that? SILENCE!!! The three ninjas are all asleep I shall enjoy it whilst it lasts
Aug 3, 2018 8:37:19 GMT
lotsofcats: It won't be for long. When I had kittens I just used to sit and watch them for ages - are you doing that yet?
Aug 3, 2018 11:09:00 GMT
Gillykat: Oh yes......just drinking their adorable cuteness Been picking up and cuddling new boys too and they're starting to realise I'm a harmless idiot who gives them a treat every time I do so.
Aug 3, 2018 15:37:15 GMT
scallywag: Thought they were GIrls ?
Aug 3, 2018 17:23:20 GMT
Gillykat: So did we scallywag Turns out, once I got them home, I checked and both are boys I'm VERY pleased about this cos I adore boy cats....always had absolute sweethearts of that sex in the past
Aug 4, 2018 10:07:36 GMT
caz2golden: Hi all, have not been on in ages and ages. Hope all of you are OK
Aug 26, 2018 10:53:06 GMT
scallywag: Yes all fine here Caz missed ya
Aug 27, 2018 8:07:03 GMT
lotsofcats: We have missed you! I hope you are back to stay.
Aug 30, 2018 9:30:32 GMT
caz2golden: The PC is still playing up so back when it is working would be best description
Aug 30, 2018 19:43:48 GMT
caz2golden: Another day where rain stops everything, I know I moaned when it got too hot, but this miserable weather is sending me round the bend!
Sept 8, 2018 12:35:33 GMT
scallywag: Ooo we had a lovely weekend weather wise , sorry you never , did that mean no work for you Caz ?
Sept 10, 2018 10:04:46 GMT
caz2golden: Both scallywag. I have been stood down at least once a week for last few weeks and had a few dismal days off too. Looks like tomorrow will be a wash out (due to work) and my next days off are when ex hurricane Helena is due to arrive
Sept 15, 2018 18:17:31 GMT
caz2golden: At the moment in middle of 5 days on, 2 days off, 6 days on, 1 day off, 5+ days on. This time of year though always lose a few days to weather. Grabbing what I can while I can, after-all I can have a break come mid Nov!!
Sept 15, 2018 18:22:12 GMT
scallywag: Un predictable then ? No luck with another job ?
Sept 15, 2018 18:26:17 GMT
caz2golden: I really should be looking! Problem is I enjoy what I do, just a shame it does not pay enough to live on!
Sept 18, 2018 16:34:25 GMT
scallywag: Shame . Enjoy it whilst you can , your a long time couped up in an office again
Sept 18, 2018 20:41:56 GMT